In this fast pace world we love buttons! Press a button and wahlah! A cup of coffee! We like our food fast! Our answers quick and our remedies faster! In fact, very few things these days are sold with the brag: Take this for slow prolonged results unless it's pleasurable and soothing right?
The body and mind are full of buttons if you know where to find them! In fact, we have four basic buttons according to Dr. Albert Ellis - Developer of Cognitive Behavioral Science (CBT)!
Our first button is what he calls the "What-if?" Button. And the answer the mind gives back to this What-if is always something bad! We can totally spin ourselves up into a frenzy just with this one button! In Anodynic Hypnosis we recognize that the What-if button is as dangerous as a loaded gun if not used right. We always use the what-if button to spin up someone into a positive state by using the What-if button for a positive outcome. What-if such and such treated you the way you enjoyed instead of meanly?
The next button is known as the Absolutes-button. It's normally rules that make no sense that we impose on ourselves or other poor innocent bystanders. And we can really paint ourselves and others into a corner using this button. Here again, in Anodynic Hypnosis we only use this button for good as well! We make Absolute-Freedom-buttons or Absolute-Kindness-buttons. Rules such as freedom will absolutely overtake you! If you resist, it will only take longer! Or, you are the kindness you've been looking for in others! Kindness will uncontrollably start leaking out of every pore of you sooner or later!
The next button in this parade is the Rationalization-Button. This button is composed usually of rationalizations for things that just don't have a rational explanation. We chase our tails round and round rather accept something that we know we need to accept. For that, we identify our tail chasing, and then let things be as they are without the need to explain. Everything eventually always comes back to balance.
The most powerful button in our button parade is the I-choose, I-prefer-buttons. Rather than pressing the other three. Next time something is making you uncomfortable. Just say: I choose to do such and such! Or, I prefer to do this instead of that! Give yourself permission to choose and prefer. You'll be very surprised how liberating you'll feel!
Go through your versions of these buttons and think about the absolute rules you make for yourself and ask: Really??? Think about the What-if spirals you enter into and ask yourself: Do you really want to chase your tail that way forever? All of the rationalizations you give yourself for things you may need to just accept. Tell yourself: Even though such and such seems to happen over and over again, I completely and totally accept myself!
And finally, give yourself permission to choose. To prefer something! Or to choose not to do something. Not to prefer something you feel forced on you!
It's never too late to have a happy childhood! Remember, you are the person you've been waiting to become! You are that comfort and kindness you so desperately crave. Just let go and let that kindness you're composed of shine like the birth of a star!
Thank you for your time,
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